If you feel like your boss is using a tone that makes you feel like youâ€™re being spoken down to â€“ like a child or a new employee who has no idea what sheâ€™s doing, youâ€™re not alone. Here are a few ways to deal with the problem in a professional manner.
1. Reassess the situation
Take a step back and try and look at your situation with an honest, unbiased point-of-view. Consider other factors â€“ could it be that youâ€™re being a little too sensitive? After all in business, busy people arenâ€™t always as nice as weâ€™d like them to be. Most of the time theyâ€™re more focused on facts rather than feelings. Rather than a nicer boss, what you may need instead is a tougher shell.
2. Opt for a face-to-face
Consider that you may be misinterpreting the tone, which is easy to do especially at the beginning of a new working relationship. Since tone can be difficult to read over email or phone,try to interact face-to-face as much as possible, even if you know the person well.
3. Make it known
If you feel that your boss is completely unaware of the impact his tone has on others, then try alerting it to him in a tactful, non-confrontational discussion. Practice what you have to say ahead of time so you donâ€™t end up getting emotional. Be specific about the problem and ask for a specific change youâ€™d like to see.
4. Remember: Itâ€™s nothing personal
More often than not, your bossâ€™s erratic behaviour isn't about you. Try and figure our whatâ€™s causing the behaviour. Sometimes people just have annoying character traits. Take comfort in the fact that you can be the bigger person and see that itâ€™s their issue and not yours.
5. Maintain your composure
Focus on keeping your cool, even if you feel put down. Donâ€™t let your bossâ€™s bad attitude ruin your day or your self-worth. Respond to rudeness with kindness and youâ€™ll not only make yourself feel better â€“ you may lift the other personâ€™s mood as well.
5. Donâ€™t let the fact that heâ€™s a mean boss affect you
So maybe your boss thinks youâ€™re an idiot â€“ but you should never let yourself think youâ€™re one. Youâ€™ve got this job and thereâ€™s a reason youâ€™re there. So step up and prove him that heâ€™s wrong by demonstrating your knowledge and capabilities. By constantly delivering consistent results, he wonâ€™t have a good enough reason to be mean to you.